After decades of failed relationships and painful drama, Donald Miller decided he’d had enough. Impressing people wasn’t helping him connect with anyone. He’d built a life of public isolation, yet he dreamed of meaningful relationships. So at forty years old he made a scary decision: to be himself no matter what it cost.
From the author of Blue Like Jazz comes a book about the risk involved in choosing to impress fewer people and connect with more, about the freedom that comes when we stop acting and start loving. It is a story about knocking down old walls to create a healthy mind, a strong family, and a satisfying career. And it all feels like a conversation with the best kind of friend: smart, funny, true, important.
Scary Close is Donald Miller at his best.
More than five years after his last book, Miller (Blue Like Jazz) returns to his brand of telling it like it is this time about relationships. In a conversational tone, he discloses thoughts about intimacy and how to find it: taking off the masks worn to hide the true self. The personality we show to the world often is that of a performer, created to hide who we are while trying to win approval and get attention, he says. Miller's contemplations come as the result of courting his wife, Betsy, who changed his thinking when it came to relationships with women. Older, married readers might chuckle at the author's description of Betsy as near perfect, but younger readers will relate to the frankly expressed concerns about pressure to fit in, difficulties in the dating scene, and hard lessons learned, some with the help of counseling. Short chapters tackle topics that range from personal memories and experiences to practical advice about factors that affect people as they develop relationships.
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Transparent and tremendous literature
Every relationship is teleological, especially the relationship you have with yourself. I’ve been a manipulator that has jumped around from relationship to relationship trying to fill a hole that can’t be filled by a humans touch and been driven by money thinking happiness will reside in it. Happiness is a journey, not an end goal and Don’s raw openness and intimate stories help strip off the heavy clothing that has been weighing me down for so many years and revealed a world within myself where there is so much hope and love. Thanks for being so good at relationships Mr. Miller! God bless!
The scary close
Great book it showed me brokenness. It showed me weakness it's showed me I was scared of been authentic it changed my life. For 16 years I was hidden behind my issues but this book let me see myself in a clearer image. Love use to scare me and commitment was a nightmare. Now I am a better person through the Grace and love of God. This book is everything people say it is and more.
Like my biography
I'm usually a "highlighter" when I read books and certain passages speak to me...I found myself nearly highlighting this entire book. Don's choosing of ways to bring his emotions and experiences to life resignated with my soul, and I'm a changed man because of this book. Thank you Don.