Set Boundaries, Find Peace
A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
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4.5 • 239 Ratings
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- $10.99
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- $10.99
Publisher Description
The instant New York Times bestseller
End the struggle, speak up for what you need, and experience the freedom of being truly yourself.
Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?
Licensed counselor, sought-after relationship expert, and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram Nedra Glover Tawwab demystifies this complex topic for today's world. In a relatable and inclusive tone, Set Boundaries, Find Peace presents simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology--and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more.
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
Whether your marriage is struggling or your friendship needs a tune-up, therapist and Instagram sensation Nedra Glover Tawwab is here to help your relationships thrive. She breaks down how boundaries are key to your mental health and the bonds (romantic and otherwise) you share with other people. Tawwab uses clients’ case studies to underscore her insights, telling us about Eric, who wants to distance himself from his alcoholic father but doesn’t know where to start, and Kim, a newlywed who can’t stop piling other people’s problems onto her plate. Tawwab lists the smart step-by-step actions you can take to create healthy boundaries in your daily life. Reading to Set Boundaries, Find Peace makes real, positive change seem like it’s within your reach.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Tawwab, a relationship therapist with more than half a million Instagram followers, debuts with a comprehensive guide on how to understand and establish interpersonal boundaries. The first section explains what boundaries are, how they are crossed, and the short- and long-term implications of consistent boundary violations. She identifies six types of boundaries physical, sexual, intellectual, emotional, material, and time and dispenses tips on how to uphold personal limits (such as "I'm more of a handshaker" for those setting a physical boundary) and detect when a boundary might be crossed (such as overly sexual joking being a red flag for "sexual boundary violation"). In the second section, Tawwab suggests scenarios in which boundaries need to be set including with family, work, and social media and walks the reader through them with examples and stories. For instance, Tawwab explains how to respond to microaggressions at work through assertiveness, how to dissuade oversharing through redirection, and ways to stand firm in the face of "guilt trips." Readers who follow Tawwab on social media and those who find setting boundaries especially difficult will appreciate the advice.
Customer Reviews
Wonderful
Nedra identifies concise and real life examples of how boundaries vary and how important it is to implement in order to maintain relationships. Every person would benefit from reading this especially our young people.
This Book Helped More Than 5 Years of Therapy
So much validation in a single book. It’s as if she wrote this specifically for me and it’s saying to me “you weren’t crazy for asking for what you needed”
“you weren’t crazy for not being okay with what they did”
“you weren’t crazy for not being okay with how you were treated”
A huge mental game changer and because of this book, I know my future relationship experiences will be better than all those crappy ones in my past!
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Amazing!
Whether you’re starting to set boundaries in your life and relationships, or want to reconsider them, this is a great, detailed guide on boundaries with different examples based on patient’s stories. You won’t be disappointed!