



Shift
Managing Your Emotions--So They Don't Manage You
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4.3 • 14 Ratings
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
“A revolutionary guide to mastering your emotional life.”—Charles Duhigg
“Brilliant, engaging, and deeply insightful.”—Lisa Damour
“A blueprint for navigating the emotional curveballs that life throws at us every day.”—The New York Times
INSTANT NATIONAL BESTSELLER • One of Oprah Daily’s Best Self-Help Books for Personal Growth in 2025, Next Big Idea Club’s Highly Anticipated Books, and Adam Grant’s 10 New Books to Feed Your Mind
A myth-busting, science-based guide that addresses the timeless question of how to manage your emotional life using tools you already possess—from the bestselling author of Chatter.
Whether it’s anxiety about going to the doctor, boiling rage when we’re stuck in traffic, or devastation after a painful break-up, our lives are filled with situations that send us spiraling. But as difficult as our emotions can be, they are also a superpower. Far from being “good” or “bad,” emotions are information. When they’re activated in the right ways and at the right time, they function like an immune system, alerting us to our surroundings, telling us how to react to a situation, and helping us make the right choices.
But how do we make our emotions work for us rather than against us? Acclaimed psychologist Dr. Ethan Kross has devoted his scientific career to answering this question. In Shift, he dispels common myths—for instance, that avoidance is always toxic or that we should always strive to live in the moment—and provides a new framework for shifting our emotions so they don’t take over our lives.
Shift weaves groundbreaking research with riveting stories of people struggling and succeeding to manage their emotions—from a mother whose fear prompted her to make a spur-of-the-moment decision that would save her daughter’s life mid-flight to a nuclear code-carrying Navy SEAL who learned how to embrace both joy and pain during a hellish training activity. Dr. Kross spotlights a wide array of tools that we already have access to—in our bodies and minds, our relationships with other people, and the cultures and physical spaces we inhabit—and shows us how to harness them to be healthier and more successful.
Filled with actionable advice, cutting-edge research, and riveting stories, Shift puts the power back into our hands, so we can control our emotions without them controlling us—and help others do the same.
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
Managing emotions, as opposed to controlling them, becomes easier when armed with neuroscientist Ethan Kross’s insight. His fascination with the subject came from watching his Holocaust-survivor grandmother regulate how she reacted to daily frustrations and sudden changes. Using examples both personal and professional, Kross offers best practices for processing emotional data—and, contrary to popular opinion, eliminating negative emotions isn’t the goal. As both parents and Navy SEALs know, a certain amount of unease can keep everyone safe. Finding the proper balance to keep from being overwhelmed and recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all answer are key. Kross advocates for developing a set of emotionally flexible tools that can be readily put to work. Whether it’s a mood-shifting playlist or a straight-shooting friend, identifying those tools in advance streamlines the process, like knowing when to grab a hammer or screwdriver. Shift helps turn emotions from baggage into a mental health first aid kit.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Far from being the enemy of rational thought, emotions are actually valuable "guides through life's most consequential moments," according to this illuminating guide. Neuroscientist Kross (Chatter) examines how emotions evolved in humans to drive attention to key priorities—anxiety "helps us marshal an adaptive response to either approach or avoid" threats, for example—and become problematic when they are outsize, distracting, self-perpetuating, or uncontrolled. He provides readers with strategies for better managing their emotions, including using a sensory stimulus like drinking something sweet to boost one's mood, mentally reframing negative situations (thinking about "how you'll feel about a stressor some time down the road" alters one's emotions in the present), and leaving a location if it's reinforcing an "unwanted emotional response." Kross makes valuable use of his own research to debunk myths about emotions (for example, that anxiety is inherently pathological, and that feelings must be confronted because avoiding them inevitably prolongs suffering) while reinforcing their fundamental value. This will be a boon to readers looking to take better charge of their inner lives.
Customer Reviews
OK
Less compelling than I expected, and while there are insights here, they all feel shallow.