The author of I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, The Angry Therapist, now teaches you how to prioritize your relationship with yourself and live a more meaningful life, whether you’re alone, dating, or with a partner.
There’s more to life than loving someone. But being single can feel like a death sentence. Why does being alone = being lonely? And why do we stop working on ourselves when we’re in a relationship?
After a painful divorce, “The Angry Therapist” John Kim realized he had never truly been on his own. He went on a journey to rebuild his relationship with himself, going from alone and disconnected to alone and fulfilled.
Kim has gone on to help thousands of clients find their own unique way to break free of expectations and finally live their truth. With Single on Purpose, Kim takes his signature no-BS “self-help in a shot glass” approach as he shares his own singlehood story and shows readers how to own their shit, break their patterns, and find a grounded sense of self.
Spending time to cultivate your relationship with yourself shouldn’t be something you only do when you hit rock bottom, go through a major loss, or have a quarter-life crisis. All of us, at some point, need to be single—on purpose.
Angry Therapist blogger Kim (I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck) uses his own failed relationships as lessons in this laugh-out-loud guide to single life. Kim writes of how he frequently catches himself making many of the same mistakes that he talks through with his clients each week. After losing himself in one serious relationship after another and coming to the realization that "relationship dysfunction feels like crack cocaine," Kim decides to attempt to happiness on his own. "Single is about being a whole person. Even when you're in a relationship. In fact, especially when you're in a relationship." According to Kim, being happy single or not begins with three daily goals: meaning (finding purpose by pursuing one's passion), joy (allowing oneself simple pleasures, such as a morning coffee), and engagement (turning one's attention to others). Instead of pursuing perfect, Kim asks readers to question one's thoughts, list nonnegotiables, and find what makes one feel most alive. (For Kim, it's riding a motorcycle.) After all, "self-care doesn't mean bubble baths and fancy brunches. It really means taking care of yourself daily like you would for someone you love." Kim's wry humor and approachable lessons will appeal to any single reader looking for encouragement.
This was literally everything I needed to read when I least expected it. Highly recommend for both single and people in relationships.
Gives You The OK To Stay Lost/Horny
This book encourages you to stay horny and build a cheap personality that’s centered in between your legs, lose your self respect as a humanbeing who’s blessed with a mind that thinks and differentiates right from wrong. This book encourages you to get rid of your manners, lose your inner tranquility and mess up a lot in your sexual life in order to find your life purpose. Watch porn, act like lost spirit and go sleep with dozens of stranger women/men in order to find love. I personally was expecting content that lives up to the title but found someone who’s still so self distracted, lived a life full of a denial of his roots, hangry for sex that he indirectly lets you know he’s still wanted by how many women he slept with after his wife divorced him, catching him watching porn. Someone so lonely inward that he took a degree in psychology to have always someone who needs his company/his help, talks about his clients in a cheek way under the name of sharing stories to help others. If you read between the lines you can see easily how this guy sells you what you want to hear, beautifying how to live a low life. It’s my first book to trick me by its title and shocked me with how much dirt in it. His pitch is the word (IT IS OK) to do whatever your lower self desires as long as the other part wants too. What’s more sad though is the way people turned to become recently that they need to see others doing what they’re doing or would like to do. If you need real help, please search for Pena Chördön’s books and audios, you’ll never regret. You don’t have to turn into Buddhism in order to find yourself, find purpose in life or find peace with being alone. I’m a practicing Muslim girl and love Pema Chördön, still return to her books when I need another perspective of life! Please, invest your money with books by real author who respects your humanity. I couldn’t ignore sharing these words after finishing reading this book, that voice we all have kept nagging me to say something. Thanks for taking time to read my words!
Honestly it’s written like you’re going thru a session with him. He’s real. Asks questions. Shares his story. It’s encouraging. Motivational. Being single is a beautiful thing none of us should take for granted.