The author of I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, The Angry Therapist, now teaches you how to prioritize your relationship with yourself and live a more meaningful life, whether you’re alone, dating, or with a partner.
There’s more to life than loving someone. But being single can feel like a death sentence. Why does being alone = being lonely? And why do we stop working on ourselves when we’re in a relationship?
After a painful divorce, “The Angry Therapist” John Kim realized he had never truly been on his own. He went on a journey to rebuild his relationship with himself, going from alone and disconnected to alone and fulfilled.
Kim has gone on to help thousands of clients find their own unique way to break free of expectations and finally live their truth. With Single on Purpose, Kim takes his signature no-BS “self-help in a shot glass” approach as he shares his own singlehood story and shows readers how to own their shit, break their patterns, and find a grounded sense of self.
Spending time to cultivate your relationship with yourself shouldn’t be something you only do when you hit rock bottom, go through a major loss, or have a quarter-life crisis. All of us, at some point, need to be single—on purpose.
Angry Therapist blogger Kim (I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck) uses his own failed relationships as lessons in this laugh-out-loud guide to single life. Kim writes of how he frequently catches himself making many of the same mistakes that he talks through with his clients each week. After losing himself in one serious relationship after another and coming to the realization that "relationship dysfunction feels like crack cocaine," Kim decides to attempt to happiness on his own. "Single is about being a whole person. Even when you're in a relationship. In fact, especially when you're in a relationship." According to Kim, being happy single or not begins with three daily goals: meaning (finding purpose by pursuing one's passion), joy (allowing oneself simple pleasures, such as a morning coffee), and engagement (turning one's attention to others). Instead of pursuing perfect, Kim asks readers to question one's thoughts, list nonnegotiables, and find what makes one feel most alive. (For Kim, it's riding a motorcycle.) After all, "self-care doesn't mean bubble baths and fancy brunches. It really means taking care of yourself daily like you would for someone you love." Kim's wry humor and approachable lessons will appeal to any single reader looking for encouragement.
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BEST BOOK I HAVE EVER READ
Whether you are single or in a relationship, this is a must read. I could not stop reading because I was having so many realizations and questioning everything I ever knew. I gained knowledge, insight, and strength in knowing that being single on purpose was the best thing I could do for myself. This book is about so much more than being single, it’s about self love and discovering who you are more than anything. this book has changed my life.
Reaffirming my own journey
I appreciated the way John shared client’s stories as well as his own personal journey. So much truth and vulnerability. “Single, on Purpose” had affirmed the journey that I have been on, particularly for the past 5 years after my second divorce. It’s amazing, how when you do the work, and “date yourself”, how your life becomes what it is meant to be.
This was a quick enjoyable read, one which I’m sure I’ll reference back to in the future. And thanks for the song suggestions for my own self tape. I’m forever changing mine. And I will explore your list to expand mine.
This is a must read for those seeking peace, and to help live their own truth.