Stop Being Mean to Yourself is a compassionate guide filled with new ideas for overcoming the pitfalls of guilt and self-doubt, and helps readers find a happier place in the world.
"In this wonderfully practical book, Melody Beattie gives you the tools to discover the magnificence and splendor of your being." -- Deepak Chopra, M.D.
Beckoning readers toward a spiritual territory beyond even that of her revolutionary best-seller Codependent No More, Melody Beattie conducts us through teeming Casablanca, war-torn Algeria, and the caverns of Egypt's great pyramids as she embarks on a new kind of journey of the soul.
An enlightening blend of travel adventure and spiritual discovery, filled with new ideas for overcoming the pitfalls of guilt and self-doubt, Stop Being Mean to Yourself is a compassionate tour guide for the troubled and the heartsick, for those who seek a happier place in the world. A tale that is at once modern and timeless, rich with the promise of personal discovery, it is a book about learning the art of living and of loving others -- and ourselves. As full of suspense and excitement as it is of hope and encouragement, it is as rewarding for its pure reading pleasure as for the wisdom it imparts.
In 1996, Beattie, a well-known articulator of the recovery movement (Co-Dependent No More), embarks on a trip to the Middle East. Inspired by an unformed yet powerful intuition that her life and her understanding are moving to a higher level, she travels to Morocco, Algiers and Egypt. Abruptly deciding to return home to Los Angeles from Egypt rather than journey on to Greece as she originally intended, Beattie books a flight that changes planes in Tel Aviv. There, she is questioned by customs agents suspicious of her erratic movements and her visit to Algiers, a breeding ground for terrorists. Using her interrogation as a framing device, Beattie recounts her impressions of Morocco (she got a stomach ache from drinking the local milk) and of grim Algiers. It is in Giza, Egypt, however, that Beattie kicks into her real story. Befriended by Essam, the owner of a local perfume shop, the author rides a camel to the pyramids, returning one evening (on horseback) to sit inside one of the pyramids and absorb its palpable "powers." Though impressed, Beattie nonetheless realizes that the key she is searching for is to be found much closer to home. "The key to life and power is simple," she reckons. "It's knowing who we are." Who Beattie is, she concludes (much to the consternation of the customs agent), is a "vampire." As Beattie's daughter Nichole told her years before: "There's two kinds of people in this world: the pigs, and the vampires." Vampires know that life is painful and that true joy consists of making art, and in the process, telling the truth about the pain. The realistic approach to self-love that Beattie presents here, while no great elixir, is a welcome tonic. $75,000 ad/promo; author tour.