Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel as though you are constantly trying to avoid confrontation?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should remember this: It’s not your fault. And you’re not alone. In fact, the person you care about may have traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), such as emotion dysregulation, impulsive behavior, unstable sense of self, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. No matter how much you want to be there for your loved one, at times it can feel like you are walking on eggshells.
This compassionate guide will enable you to:
Make sense out of the chaos
Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
Defuse arguments and conflicts
Protect yourself and others from violent behavior
Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.
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Stop Walking on Eggshells
From a partner of someone with borderline personality: Two years ago, I finally figured out what was wrong with me. I worked very hard to learn about myself and own my behavior. I changed gradually but markedly. Yet my relationship with my wife just seemed to get worse, no matter whose advice I followed (and I had a lot of professional help). My wife's behavior just got even worse and harder and harder to understand. Then I read this book, and finally my wife's behavior started to make sense to me! While at many times I felt a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and despair at finally realizing that my wife had such a serious and difficult to treat condition, at least now I had a name for what was wrong with her. And that gave me hope, because it was when I finally got a name for what was wrong with me that things really began to change for me. I have already learned how to deal with her mood swings and abuse better, even though she does not recognize her part in any of the problems in our marriage, or even take any responsibility for her behavior. In the end, there is hope for me, whether I stay or go.
I broke up with my borderline personality disorder girlfriend several times. I didn't understand her behavior. This book explained all the things I was going through in the relationship
The first step
Eye-opening revelation about your loved one who causes you so much chaos and confusion. And a first step to self-discovery!