If you’re having trouble connecting with those around you, know that you’re not the only one. Adult friendships are tricky!!! Part manifesto, part guide, The Art of Showing Up is soul medicine for our modern, tech-mediated age. Rachel Wilkerson Miller charts a course to kinder, more thoughtful, and more fulfilling relationships—and, crucially, she reminds us that “you can’t show up for others if you aren’t showing up for yourself first.” Learn to fearlessly . . . define your needs, reclaim your time, and commit to self-careask for backup when times are tough—and take action when others are in crisismeet and care for new friends, and gently end toxic friendshipshelp your people feel more seen (and more OK) overall!
Miller (Dot Journaling), deputy editor of Vice's Life vertical, provides digital natives an easy, entertaining guide to adult friendships. Her stance that "self-knowledge is at the core of showing up" forms the basis of her instructions outlined in the first section, "Showing Up for Yourself," on identifying one's own values, preferences, emotions, needs, and boundaries. Miller litters her advice with exclamation marks and asides, creating a sincere tone that feels like speaking with a close confidante. Filled with many spirited aphorisms ("You yes, you! can do these things! They may feel hard, but they are good and fine!"), the book's second section, "Showing Up for Others," is less charming but more instructional and provides readers with scripts to navigate a variety of social encounters, strategies for making new friends, and advice for "when they're going through hard shit." Miller starts each section with brief general principles, then relies heavily on lists and action steps, which will make for easy reference and perusal, and her charismatic voice will appeal to any reader of self-help. Those looking for help braving the social unknown will want to take a look.