The Brotherhood of Joseph
A Father's Memoir of Infertility and Adoption in the 21st Century
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- $19.99
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- $19.99
Publisher Description
While miracles in reproductive technology have brought joy to millions, those very advances have plunged many couples into an unrelenting cycle of hope and heartbreak. One failed attempt may lead to another and another—but how do you give up when there is always another doctor, another procedure holding out the possibility of conception and the child you yearn for? Brooks Hansen vividly captures the emotional turmoil he and his wife, Elizabeth, endured as they tried to conceive, the years their lives were put on hold, and the excruciating sense of loss. He writes too of the couple's journey through the bewildering world of adoption—a path to parenthood fraught with financial, legal, and emotional risks of its own.
Offering men a chance to be heard and women a rare opportunity to view the struggle with infertility from a male perspective, The Brotherhood of Joseph brings to life the anger, frustration, humor, heartbreak, and sense of helplessness that come to dominate the husband's role. As his remarkable account reaches its finale in Siberia, however, Hansen's once again becomes the story of a husband and a wife who, even after years of medical frustration and fruitless paperwork, still must take one last risk together and trust in their most basic instincts before their new family can be born.
"Literary grace that has the remarkable power to act as a lens" is how the New York Times Book Review has described Hansen's writing, and that grace has never been more evident than in this remarkable memoir.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Calling to mind the well known adoptive father, Joseph the Carpenter, novelist Hansen (The Monsters of St. Helena) tackles the practical and emotional turmoil facing would-be parents with fertility problems: assisted reproduction technology may be "yielding more happy children and parents who look like each other, but... it is also meting out despair at a rate, and for lengths of time, that I'm not sure the human heart was designed for." Chronicling the four years Hansen and his wife spent trying to get pregnant, and the two years they spend trying to adopt, Hansen gently guides readers through the labyrinth of interventions now available to infertile couples, while at the same time eloquently attesting to the trials and pitfalls of following them. Divided into three sections covering infertility, adoption and an international trip to meet a baby, the book is well paced and benefits from Hansen's careful insights; this is one sports fan who has thought much about what it means to be a father. Though the subject matter is emotionally difficult, Hansen's humor and positive outlook make this memoir an encouraging read for any parent-to-be.