Don’t get mad. Get calm.
Ask yourself: “Do I really want to be angry?” Leonard Scheff, a trial attorney who used anger to fuel his courtroom persona, realized the answer had to be no. Anger is toxic. Anger is in the eyes of the beholder.
Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Scheff and Susan Edmiston have created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step-by-step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with newfound happiness. Based on the Transforming Anger workshop Shceff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, from the reasonable (we want love from our partner) to the irrational (we want respect from a total stranger) to the impossible (we want someone to fix everything in our life).
The authors show how, once we identify our real unmet demands, we can dissolve the anger. The same is true for our “buttons”—once we understand them, we can defuse what happens when they’re pushed.
We learn to laugh at ourselves, a critical early step in changing angry behavior. We learn how to deal with the anger of others, and ultimately how to transform anger into compassion.
And finally, we learn the liberating truth: Only you can make yourself angry.
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Thank you for having the courage and inspiration to be so honest in discussing such a difficult topic that all humans deal with. Anger has been something I have struggled with and I found reading this book and the perspective it offered very helpful.
The Cow in the Parking Lot
Great lessons. Don't buy the audio book. If you know the Dalai Lama you will hate the narrator. He applies an Indian accent to His Holiness. It really ruins the segments where His Holiness is quoted. Hint for the narrator....study those whom you quote.
I would recommend this book to anyone, not just people who have tempers because we all get angry.
My recommendation is to not read it all in one sitting. Read a few chapters a day ,then allow yourself to absorb the information then apply it .Because its too much info take in all at once.
Read it, you won't regret it.