Are you wondering how you can improve your relationships with your friends and family?
Are you curious how to get or keep the job of your dreams?
Do you want to become a more popular person?
This book will show you how to do all that by raising your likeability factor—or how much other people like you.
After all, life is a series of popularity contests. The choices other people make about you determine your health, wealth, and happiness. And decades of research prove that people choose who they like. They vote for them, they buy from them, they marry them, and they spend precious time with them.
The good news is that you can arm yourself for the contest and win life’s battles for preference. How? By being likeable.
The more you are liked—or the higher your likeability factor—the happier your life will be. This book will show you how to raise that likeability factor by teaching you how to boost four critical elements of your personality:
•Friendliness: your ability to communicate liking and openness to others
•Relevance: your capacity to connect with others’ interests, wants, and needs
•Empathy: your ability to recognize, acknowledge, and experience other people’s feelings
•Realness: the integrity that stands behind your likeability and guarantees its authenticity
What happens when you improve in these areas and boost your likeability factor?
•You bring out the best in others
•You survive life’s challenges
•You have better health—and even improve others’ health, too
•You outperform in your daily roles
•You win the popularity contests that define your life
Join me for a few hours and I’ll share the results of hundreds of thousands of pages of research, numerous seminars, and hundreds of interviews with people just like you! Together let’s build our likeability factor and improve our lives!
Also available as a Random House AudioBook
Sanders's message in this follow-up to his bestselling Love Is the Killer App isn't exactly a revelation: people who are well liked are more apt to get what they want out of life than those who are disliked. However, Sanders does offer a valuable look at the four personality traits he says contribute to a person's likability namely, friendliness, relevance (do you connect on interests or needs?), empathy and "realness" (genuineness or authenticity). Sanders, a Yahoo! leadership coach, is able to deconstruct complex subjects such as personality traits, and the book's value is in guiding readers toward understanding that likability isn't an accident of birth but a skill that can be learned (exercises are included). No doubt every reader knows someone they'd like to give this book to, and perhaps people who suspect their own L-factor is low will find their way to it, too.
A life changer
It's completely changed my orientation to other people, and made me realize how I can increase my value with them by being more "likeable". Have to admit I've got a pretty short fuse that has prevented people from liking the full package. I thought I made up for it by being especially skilled in my job, but adding like ability to it, what can I say- I've read the book and highly recommend it, because you can always be more likeable.
Great Content, a bit soft on form
Tim Sanders has really written an excellent guide to a subject that is often considered unteachable. I do, in fact recommend it. The division of likeability into discrete, concrete components is helpful, and the exercises, though doing them feels silly, are definitely effective.
I'm taking off two stars simply because the prose is redundant and flabby. The writing style makes one feel as if the author expects an audience of idiots who need to be babied through the reading process. If this book were cut down to half its size or a bit shorter, it would be excellent.