An expert on the psychology of leadership and the bestselling author of Integrity, Necessary Endings, and Boundaries For Leaders identifies the critical ingredient for personal and professional wellbeing.
Most leadership coaching focuses on helping leaders build their skills and knowledge and close performance gaps. These are necessary, but not sufficient. Using evidence from neuroscience and his work with leaders, Dr. Henry Cloud shows that the best performers draw on another vital resource: personal and professional relationships that fuel growth and help them surpass current limits.
Popular wisdom suggests that we should not allow others to have power over us, but the reality is that they do, for better or for worse. Consider the boss who diminishes you through cutting remarks versus one who challenges you to get better. Or the colleague who always seeks the limelight versus the one who gives you the confidence to finish a difficult project. Or the spouse who is honest and supportive versus the one who resents your success. No matter how talented, intelligent, or experienced, the greatest leaders share one commonality: the power of the others in their lives.
Combining engaging case studies, persuasive findings from cutting-edge brain research, and examples from his consulting practice, Dr. Cloud argues that whether you’re a Navy SEAL or a corporate executive, outstanding performance depends on having the right kind of connections to fuel personal growth and minimize toxic associations and their effects. Presenting a dynamic model of the impact these different kinds of connections produce, Dr. Cloud shows readers how to get more from themselves by drawing on the strength and expertise of others. You don’t have a choice whether or not others have power in your life, but you can choose what kinds of relationships you want.
According to this well-intentioned but undernourished self-help manual from Cloud, a clinical psychologist and prolific author (Never Go Back), "The right kind of relationships wire us for resilience and success." He believes he has cracked the code of how some people are able to surpass limits and in the process become better, more fulfilled versions of themselves. Rather than acting as if only our own performance mattered, he writes, we need to accept the fact that others affect what we do. This leads to his theory of self-help through strongly connected relationships: finding them, forming them, nurturing them. Those relationships will formulate the basis for high performance, he writes, and it's essential to understand their power. Cloud walks readers through the "four corners" of connection, offering advice on how to achieve genuine connections. The emphasis on developing toughness, drive, and commitment is worthwhile, but the slim, repetitive content offers more pompom-waving than advice.
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The Power of the Other
Henry Cloud has done it again! His information could change the world!
The author repeats himself over and over, reiterating each small point several time, turning what could be the idea for a couple of paragraphs into a full chapter. Moreover, the information presented is not scientific. The author backs up his claims by telling stories about interactions with clients, and some of the stories are as useless as him writing about how one time, he gave a client the advice that he's writing about...not about how following the advice took performance to another level, which I thought was the point of the book. Not much substance here
Essential to read and study
Dr. Henry Cloud nailed it with this book. Not only should everyone read this book but it should be studied as well. There is so much truly valuable information that you can actually apply to your life that you really need to read this a few times, take notes, and truly study to learn it as if your life depended on it. Becuase the quality of your life and the “others” in your life really can depend on it. No wonder Dr. Cloud been wanting to write this for so long! This has already begun making an impact on me and the “others” in my life and I know it will for you too.