The Transition

Deciding whether or not to propose to Alison was one of the most difficult decisions I’ve ever made.


As it should be. Committing to spend the rest of your life loving and serving another person is a momentous decision, especially when you’re young.


What came next, however, caught me by surprise.


Brides-to-be have seemingly endless magazines, articles, planners, websites, and advice from friends and family to help them prepare for their weddings. More likely than not, your beloved has been thinking about her wedding since she was a little girl. You, on the other hand, just started a few minutes ago, and you’re probably wondering what you’re supposed to do next.


That’s why I wrote The Transition.


Your engagement is about more than planning a wedding. It’s about preparing for a marriage.


Marriage is one of the most significant transitions you’ll ever experience. You’re preparing to enter a lifelong relationship that will require your full attention, commitment, and involvement. Although you won’t be married until you exchange your vows, the foundation of your marriage begins taking shape during your engagement.


In The Transition, I share my experiences, practical advice, and lessons learned to help you navigate this important period of your life. From the proposal to the wedding day and through your first six months of marriage, I’ll walk you through the challenges, decisions, and conversations that every future husband should be prepared to face.


Along the way, you’ll learn how to:


Have the conversations that matter.


Every marriage faces challenges, but many of the most difficult issues can be addressed before the wedding. We’ll explore five key areas of married life and how to approach the conversations that will help you and your fiancée begin your marriage with a shared understanding of what lies ahead.


Support your fiancée through wedding planning.


Planning a wedding can be an exciting but stressful experience. I’ll help you understand the process, anticipate important decisions, and find practical ways to participate and support your fiancée without losing sight of what you’re preparing for together.


Take an active role in building your marriage.


You and your fiancée have an opportunity to establish the habits, expectations, and priorities that will shape your life together. Rather than simply waiting for the wedding day, you’ll learn how to take responsibility for your part in creating a happy, fruitful, and lasting marriage.


Too many couples spend more time planning their wedding than preparing for their marriage.


You have an extraordinary opportunity to begin your marriage with intention, confidence, and a clear understanding of the commitment you’re making. The decisions you make during your engagement can help establish a foundation that will serve you for decades to come.


The Transition will help you become the fiancé your future wife deserves and prepare you for the marriage you’re building together.