The Wonder of Girls
Understanding the Hidden Nature of Our Daughters
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Publisher Description
Michael Gurian, whose national bestseller The Wonder of Boys presented a radical and enlightening view of parenting sons, now offers a groundbreaking approach to raising daughters.
In The Wonder of Girls, Gurian, himself the father of two girls, provides crucial information for fully understanding the basic nature of girls: up-to-date scientific research on female biology, hormones, and brain development and how they shape girls' interests, behavior, and relationships.
He also offers insight into a culture mired in competition between traditionalism and feminism and a new vision that provides for the equal status of girls and women yet acknowledges their nature as complex and distinct from men. He explains what is "normal" for girls each year from birth to age 20; what developmental needs girls face in each stage; how to communicate effectively with girls; and how to cope with developmental crises such as early sexuality, eating disorders, parental divorce, and more.
With personal insights, practical tips, real-life anecdotes, and accessible science, The Wonder of Girls creates a new parenting paradigm. Key elements include:
• a nature-based approach to why girls are the way they are
• the connection between the need for profound attachment and the physical and brain development of girls
• support for a girl's inherent need for intimacy
• tools to protect girls' self-esteem and emotional life
• a new approach to girls' character development and rites of passage.
With this scientifically based developmental map of girlhood, Gurian equips parents with a comprehensive guide for raising daughters. Challenging our culture to examine and embrace a crucial piece of the puzzle missing thus far, The Wonder of Girls elevates the dialogue on parenthood.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Therapist Gurian probes the unique aspects of girls' emotional, social and physical development in a follow-up to his bestselling The Wonder of Boys. First, though, he takes a few stabs at feminism, arguing that several of its theories (which, it must be noted, he incorrectly oversimplifies) need to be revised or even discarded by parents seeking to raise healthy girls. But Gurian's trademark is examining how biology impacts behavior. Biological matters hormones, brain differences (girls' brains are "more broadly active" than boys' and have 15% more blood flow) ultimately define girls' and boys' journeys through childhood and adolescence, Gurian argues. Even a girl's drop in self-esteem during adolescence is a "natural," biological phenomenon rather than a result of negative cultural influences. Feminists, he argues, have ignored the biological differences in order to successfully compete with men in the workplace; in so doing, they have denied or downplayed a girl's desire for intimacy and the experience of motherhood. Gurian urges parents to use a new model in raising girls (he calls it "Womanism") in which motherhood is a "season" when careers must be adjusted or put on hold. The author boldly suggests that parents prepare their daughters for the sacrifices of motherhood, and ensure that girls establish a three-family system (the nuclear family, the extended family and institutions such as church or school) that will meet their need for intimate relationships. Expect Gurian's arguments to stir controversy and inspire thought.
Customer Reviews
Respect your girl’s development
We are often confused by our own behaviors as adults. And even more confused by our children when their behavior doesn’t match our assumptions (derived from our own flawed childhood and flawed societal expectations).
This book is immensely helpful for honoring your own self and your daughter’s self.
She comes equipped with a heritage older than time, a developmental pattern pressure tested by the rigors of Nature. Research helps uncover that pattern so we can understand and support. And the author does a great job laying out the patterns so you can do your job as a parent: love.
Help her. Stop getting in her way, shaming her, and demanding she be different so you don’t get upset, or your life is easier, or you can parade her around as a trophy of your ideology, whatever it may be.
It’s not about you.
It’s about her and her biological inheritance, gifted to her by millions of women before her. Amplify the gift of your daughter’s own life and being.
Amplify the wonder of girls.