This bestselling book from the author of Wild collects the best of The Rumpus's Dear Sugar advice columns plus never-before-published pieces.
"Wise and compassionate" (New York Times Book Review), and rich with humor and insight—and absolute honesty—this book is a balm for everything life throws our way.
Life can be hard: your lover cheats on you; you lose a family member; you can’t pay the bills—and it can be great: you’ve had the hottest sex of your life; you get that plum job; you muster the courage to write your novel. Sugar—the once-anonymous online columnist at The Rumpus, now revealed as Cheryl Strayed, author of the bestselling memoir Wild—is the person thousands turn to for advice.
Strayed (Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Coast Trail), in this collection of advice (some previously unpublished) for readers of her column "Dear Sugar" on therumpus.net, chooses thought-provoking questions from her readers and listens deeply to their emotional content. In casually intimate prose (to a struggling writer: "dear sweet arrogant beautiful crazy tortured talented rising star glowbug") and literary grace, she creates moments of wise, compassionate insight in often startlingly personal miniature memoirs, cradling gentle but practical guidance with enough humor to cement Strayed's presence as both a mentor and the most understanding of friends. Sugar can be tough and honest (to the same struggling writer: "buried beneath all the anxiety and sorrow and fear and self-loathing , there's arrogance at its core"), but she's never mean: in Sugar's world, we all deserve love unconditionally, but also owe it to ourselves to act in the world to be the best, most authentic selves that we can be. For a regrounding in the beauty of what it means to be flawed and gorgeously human, for answers that feel real whether we've been able to ask the right question, Strayed's caring little essays offer surprisingly rich comfort.
An amazing emotional read
My sister recommended this book to me after it was recommended to her by a mutual friend. I had never heard of or read anything about Cheryl Strayed/Dear Sugar, which ended up being a wonderful thing. This book blew me away. Yes, there were uncomfortable parts, and depressing parts, and downright terrible parts, but there were also hopeful and courageous parts, and parts that made my heart a little lighter. Sometimes I got teary eyed and other times I downright ugly cried. This book really had it all and was one of my best reads this year.
I loved how the book was broken down into sections and I enjoyed pacing myself through the different "stories". I can definitely see the draw of Strayed's writing style. She is no nonsense and in your face. She is the friend we all need who will give it to you straight and either hold you as you cry or push you to be the person you know you can be. No, I would not follow her advice in every situation, but I liked that I was given the other side of the coin. A viewpoint that I may not have considered in those situations. I have never highlighted a book as many times as I did this one. Every piece had a gem to uncover and I found Strayed's frank honesty refreshing. I will say, that the book may not be for everyone considering the subject matter discussed in some of the pieces and the language used.
Average at best
This book was just average for me. I expected to love it, but it fell short for me. This book was recommended to me. The stories are heartwarming, and it’s well written, but not for me. I found the book boring and most of the advice sections were just too long. Most of the stories were also unrelatable for me. Just not my style.
Amazing book! I've been recommending it to everyone I care about.