New York Times bestselling author, psychologist, and leadership expert Henry Cloud equips us to understand and manage trust for successful relationships through five foundational aspects.
Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor – art, science, commerce – and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust.
It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway.
And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward.
Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible.
Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.
In this no-nonsense guide, psychologist and leadership consultant Cloud (Boundaries) contends that trust is "the currency that drives everything" and provides readers with tools to judiciously give and earn it. First, Cloud outlines five factors that make trust possible, including a "track record" of prior behavior ("Trust cannot be given only on a promise") and the existence of a positive motive. Before placing faith in another person, the author contends, it's important to look for qualities like godliness, perseverance, and self-control. Cloud discusses how to restore one's trust in someone else by tracking the "objective criteria" of their behavior. The author's advice lends itself to a slew of scenarios, such as business partnerships, marriages, and parent-child relationships, and though the periodic Bible quotes can feel out of place, Cloud's step-by-step advice and clearly stated principles prove actionable. Despite a few wobbles, readers will find worth here.
Awesome and insightful work
This book is the premier work in my humble opinion since his original work of Boundaries. I have listened to it twice and will be reading it soon and going through the workbook. This explains a lot of my failures in life AND how to fix many of my problems. Thank you Dr Cloud for this amazing insight into myself and those I love the most.
This isn’t the study guide
This is the book.