Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
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3.9 • 15 Ratings
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
"Birthdays may be difficult for me."
"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family."
"When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me."
"I am afraid you will abandon me."
The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame.
With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he must grieve his loss now if he is to receive love fully in the future--that she needs honest information about her birth family no matter how painful the details may be--and that although he may choose to search for his birth family, he will always rely on you to be his parents.
Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home.
Customer Reviews
Good Read - Helpful if your new to family disfunction/adoption loss..
This is a good read if your new to the huge loss that is created by adoption. To me it seems like it should be a common since kinda thing that adoption is a huge loss.. The bond between a biological parent and child is a special thing that can’t be replaced no matter how much love is given by others.. So the book pretty much told me everything I already kinda knew, which helps in ways, but also just makes my heart hurt more for my adoptive children. Definitely read if you think adoption isn’t anything but sad..
Very relatable.
I related to this book in so many ways, as I was adopted at the age of nine months from a Russian orphanage.
I liked the letters from the adoptees to their birth parents. I love the fact that this book separates the love for my parents from the loss of my birth parents and medical history.