Understanding the Tin Man
Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy
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Publisher Description
Why are men so afraid of showing their feelings? What scares men about commitment? Blackboard bestselling author William July II tackles these age-old questions, revealing secrets that every woman wants to know about her man, and every man needs to know about himself. He explains how boys are conditioned to become emotionally closed off, leaving them incapable of sharing their feelings or participating fully in relationships--they are like the Tin Man in The Wizard of Oz.
Taking a realistic, down-to-earth approach, July goes on to provide a step-by-step program for men who want to change, and for women who want to help the men in their lives overcome the Tin Man syndrome. Reading his words is as comforting as talking to your best friend, as enlightening as listening to a wise teacher. His book will help you to:
Recognize a Tin Man
Understand the real reasons why a man fears intimacy
See through the tactics men use to avoid commitment and relationships
Discover a man's biggest worries about relationships
Identify the five situations in which even the most emotionally numb man will share his feelings
Help a Tin Man change his life
At the end of each chapter you'll find thought-provoking questions and self-improvement exercises for both men and women. Understanding the Tin Man is a much-needed voice of reason on the battlefield of the sexes.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
In his third book, popular motivational speaker and author July (Brothers, Lust and Love) tackles the difficulties many men encounter with commitment--to themselves and others. Opening with a quote from Buddha challenging the reader to become "the noblest victor" by conquering himself, July asserts that men need to acknowledge, understand and learn how to process their emotions in healthy ways. Borrowed from Frank Baum's The Wizard of Oz, the term "Tin Man" describes those who embrace the destructive cultural truism that a man's worth is based on his ability to conquer and control other people through sex, money, physical power or manipulation. Describing himself as a recovering Tin Man, July humorously relates how he neglected a broken finger out of a desire to avoid looking like a "sissy," and questions why it often takes life-threatening crises to prompt men to recognize that their macho attitudes are killing them. While generally careful not to point fingers, July contends that women are sometimes willing participants in the macho male belief system, encouraging some of the negative behavior in men that they claim to hate. He suggests that kicking out the Tin Man is essential not only for developing healthy romantic relationships but for maintaining good male friendships, which he believes can be superficial when friends fear appearing weak. Packed with solid insights and written in a brother-to-brother style that won't alienate women, July's latest effort reinforces his position as a cool-headed referee in the battle of the sexes. Author tour.
