In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation.
Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.
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This book has really helped me to understand issues within my own family and self. I have deeper confidence in the actions and boundaries I am forced to deal with. I highly recommend this book.
Having just decided to divorce a woman whom I now know to be a Narcissist, this book was an extraordinary eye opener. After years of behavior that made no sense, after years of believing that if I just hung in there and kept on loving her, I could make it better, I now know I couldn't. It was also very educational to learn about how Narcissists develop. In a sense, given her childhood, my former wife never had a chance. And I never would have understood that without the help of this book and my own therapist.