Psychologist John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship.
This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage.
You'll also learn that more sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage, frequent arguing will not lead to divorce, financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship, wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years and there is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there's a way around it.
Dr. Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and—Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
Great book. Tons of useful information and anecdotes. There really is a science to marriage and how you should interact with your spouse. I really wish I had picked up this book before my marriage went gone down hill. I’m using the information found in this book to reconsile with my estranged wife and also to understand where the break down occurred. Definitely worth the read.
This is probably the best book on marriage ever written. It may not be the only book you need to read, but if you want to dramatically change your understanding of marriage. Start here.