Resolve Jealousy Workbook

If you are jealous, you might have an exaggerated, idealized mental image of your partner. You might expect your partner to be “pure”, devoted, unconditionally loving and accepting … in other words, to behave as a perfect parent. This is an indication of bonds created in childhood.

If you idolize your partner as a parent replacement, every deviation from your expectations might trigger fear, confusion and defensive anger. You might feel that your partner owes you undivided attention. You might feel dependent of your partner's love, focus and devotion, just like you felt dependent of your parents as a child. You might believe that you deeply love your partner and that a breakup would mean losing your sense of meaning of life.

The truth, however, may be that you do not love your partner as who they are. You are in love with the idealized image in your mind. Unintentionally, you are willing to sacrifice the personality, independence and self-esteem of your partner to that infantile image. The strength of your emotions might make you believe that you have the right to do so.

This program can help you understand the real causes of your jealousy, change your perspective and learn how to dissolve jealous urges. You can review your behavior and its consequences for your relationships and the quality of your life. Finally, these exercises will can guide you towards emotional independence and healthy self-esteem.