Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love (Unabridged)
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4.2 • 158 Ratings
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- $16.99
Publisher Description
"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship."
--John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
At times, trying to make sense of the emotions that drive our relationships can feel like being lost in a foreign country. With Attached, psychiatrist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller give us a map. The two therapists believe that attachment theory provides a great framework for understanding romantic relationships. We normally think of attachment theory—the importance of developing strong bonds with others as a part of strengthening ourselves—in terms of parenting, but the need to connect with others hardly goes away in adulthood. The three basic attachment styles—secure, anxious, and avoidant—are just as useful when exploring relationships between adults as they are in thinking about toddlers. Veteran narrator Robert Petkoff’s soothing delivery made Levine and Heller’s intuitive exercises and fun quizzes even more inviting. We experienced some major “Aha!” moments and we found the book’s practical strategies for overcoming self-sabotaging relationship habits—hanging onto perceived slights, attempting to make your partner feel jealous, even texting too much—very empowering.
Customer Reviews
Never Forgotten
Amazing and inspiring. Rest In Peace Matthew Perry, you did a great job at helping people and will continue to do so from beyond.
Great book
Some real gems in this book to understand relationships, I learned a lot !!
Limited perspective/bad advice
This book is good for explaining the absolute basics of different attachment styles but, in my opinion, it presents it all way too narrowly and simplistically. My biggest gripe is that it basically tells you if you are in an anxious-avoidant relationship, you are doomed and your only option is to break it off. I can say from personal experience that this is absolutely not true! There are lots of other books out there now that teach about attachment theory in a more complete and nuanced way - go for one of them instead (and, in my experience, many therapists will tell you the same.)