Finally Out

Dr. Olson was once asked, “Why would a forty year old man want to come out anyway? You’re too old for sex.” In “Finally Out” Dr. Olson answers that question and many others as he rigorously examines why some gay men live straight lives while struggling to come to terms with their true sexual orientation. He blends his own life experience with his psychiatric training, adding gay history for context. He then wraps it all into a complete and easily accessible understanding of men who resist thinking they are gay even while engaging – sometimes exclusively -- in secret sexual activity with other men. With professional understanding Dr. Olson examines his personal transformation from a “straight” man living in a heterosexual world to a gay man beginning his education anew. Dr. Olson addresses the challenges faced by those who choose to come out after living much of their lives closeted. He punctuates his narrative with revealing stories from his own life and from his interviews with other gay men from around the world, and he includes surprising facts that provide perspective on global cultural norms. “Finally Out” examines how secrecy, silence and fear of judgment result in shame that contributes significantly to leading a hidden life. “Finally Out” is much more than a guide to coming out for mature men. Dr. Olson has written a book designed to be helpful for these men, but also for their families and anyone who loves them. It also will serve as a resource for therapists and clergy who counsel them and anyone who wishes to understand same-sex attraction.