Marriage After Retirement: 25 Questions to Ask

These 25 short thought-provoking questions were created to help you as a couple talk through the issues that if left unchecked could over time erode the happiness out of your long awaited relationship. There is no question that is off limits for discussion. Every question should be answered by both individuals.

There is no quick magic scoring key at the end that you can flip to first and see how compatible you are. The only scorecard is the mental one you create from the deeper understanding I hope this book helps you to have as a takeaway while you learn about more deeply about your chosen partner.

Marriage later in life can have different challenges that come hand in hand with changes that may already be happening in careers that are ending soon. Perhaps full retirement is already a part of your days now with old demanding jobs replaced with fulfilling volunteer activities on your schedule.

Maybe you mourned the loss of a spouse or partner after an illness for a time. Planning for you may take on a different importance in some areas related to health.

Maybe you are now in a different place in life after a divorce long ago left you with children to raise who are now grown. You are free to put yourself first for a change and find love.

You seek out different things in a mate and your perspectives and expectations have changed too.

Most importantly, you are willing to try again with this person because of who they are to you and your age is no reason to hold you back.

Understanding that love, no matter how much you seek after it, how powerfully it pulls your heart strings, how patient it is for the eighty-seventh time, is often not powerful enough to conquer nor overcome every emotional or relationship related issue. You may have already learned this lesson the hard way.

Some relationships fail to be long term with or without marriage certificates. Hopeful promises were made and future dreams shared before they ended with promises that were unable to be kept or dreams never to be fully realized.

By reading this book and being willing to ask the hard questions before you are deeply committed to a new potential long term relationship shows you are looking for tools to be successful in what, for some, is elusive - a long term loving relationship after retirement.