Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love (Unabridged)
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4.1 • 69 Ratings
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
A road map for building strong and secure relationships for those who struggle with anxiety in their romantic connections.
An estimated 47 million Americans identify as having an anxious attachment style, which can make being in relationships turbulent and emotionally taxing for them. According to groundbreaking research in the field of attachment, anxious types are more prone to insecurity, jealousy, codependency, and other behaviors that get in the way of finding and sustaining love. In Anxiously Attached, seasoned psychotherapist and couples counselor Jessica Baum guides readers through understanding their attachment style at its core and building the inner strength and self-love that will lead them to more secure and satisfying relationships.
Developed over ten years in private practice, Baum’s signature Self-full® Method has helped her clients get off the toxic roller coaster of anxious attachment and discover the secure and mutually supportive relationships they deserve. In this book readers will learn how to:
Create boundaries to safeguard their sense of self-sovereignty in relationshipsCommunicate to their partners what they need to feel safe and secure in the relationshipDevelop a secure sense of self-worth and emotional stabilityLearn the true meaning of a healthy/interdependent relationship and how to establish one with their partner or future partner.Discover a compassionate path towards healing through experiences like mediation practices where they can start to develop more insight into their internal landscape.Attain a deep understanding of the anxious-avoidant dance that is extremely common in intimacy struggles.
Anxiously Attached offers a practical and holistic approach for overcoming anxious attachment issues to discover happier, more fulfilling relationships.
Customer Reviews
Recommend It To EVERYONE
Whether you are struggling with disorganized attachment, dating one or even a parent, and want to make sure you show up in a nurturing way, I couldn’t recommend this book enough. It’s practical, educational, and even entertaining. Jessica Baum’s voice is soothing, and you really feel like you’re in her office taking a one on one session with her. Buy it for them, buy it for yourself, and heal. 11/10
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Cons: Overall the general tone seems to come off just a click or two toward negative vibes? I read a different book on the same topic right before this one and it was a lot more of a positive experience. I left that one feeling more hopeful than this one 🤷🏼♀️
Heavy emphasis on childhood work which requires access to childhood. Thus, someone who is adopted, who doesn’t have childhood photos, does t have access to childhood or family, etc. will have a difficult time connecting to the work being asked of them from this book.
There are a lot of generalizations and assumptions made, I think largely based on the author’s lived experience, which may make a less critically thinking reader feel inadequate. Example: Assertion that it’s best to complete the self-work as a single rather than when already partnered. If I were partnered I would have quit reading the book at that point.
The processes for development of the inner voice and the way it is discussed might seem pretty strange and out-there for some folks. I’m an open minded “spiritual” kind of person and even I found it a bit “woo-woo” at times.
Pro: Broadly, good concepts to implement.
Can work well for someone who doesn’t immediately have a supportive social community or close friends/family for support.
Several examples of exercises such as meditations or reflections to use to guide yourself.
Empathetic explanation of carer-child dynamics and childhood wounds which includes the fact that our caregivers also have these wounds, which impacts/ed) their ability to be who we need/ed them to be.
Pretty good explanation of supportive research. I haven’t cross referenced to check sources, but it seems decently rooted in science. There was only one part which I know was a misrepresentation of research.
Overall: I might recommend it to my woo-woo yogi new-age friends, but not the general population. That said, it was informative for me.
Good book to start
First book I’ve read after I recognized my issue and I want to learn more about it. This book is really help me to be a little more mindful and notice when my emotions is off.