Secure Love (Unabridged)
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4.7 • 36 Ratings
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- $19.99
Publisher Description
Create a lasting and loving attachment with this national bestseller, a “must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) from the expert couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship.
What does a healthy relationship look like?
A good question, in theory, but couple’s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?
The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, an “incredibly wise and helpful guide” (Jen Sincero, New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass) to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it’s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections.
In this book Julie Menanno, the expert behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, tackles:
-Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it’s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
-“Instead of that, say this” suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship more effectively.
-The four attachment types, with exercises to understand you and your partner’s attachment style.
-How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself.
-Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple’s sex life and how to ignite that sexual connection.
Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and guides you on getting out of negative cycles to find safety in one another. In doing so, “you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship” (Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight) and establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you’ve been longing for.
Customer Reviews
A book that will change the rest of your life.
I have been reading books since I can remember… It has always been a passion of mine. Usually non-fiction I must admit. But every once in a while, I take a gander into self-help or books like these… the very first one that completely changed my life was learning the love languages. After I read that book, my mind was blown. I have not raised my voice at my children since, I was a yeller! I didn’t know what to do with them because I did not know how they needed to be loved.. until I read the book! So that’s the first one I would say changed my life, and that was many moons ago… now I can say that Secure Love without any question of a doubt, has changed the rest of my life! All of the questions that I had been struggling to find answers with were not only explained in the best of ways, but with grace and understanding. I cannot think enough for sitting down and creating such a bible, if you will. This has completely changed my relationship. Every single thing that we struggled with, was in the pages of this book. It’s crazy to think that just any relationship out of millions and millions can all relate to a few simple things. But it is the absolute truth! I will recommend this until I cannot breathe anymore! Thank you thank you thank you.
The journey just started
I’ve never kept focus on any book until now. Give me a book on how to make a million bucks or the key to a healthy a relationship. I’ll pick this one any day. The audio book helped me identify my ‘starting line’. I spent I’m not sure how many hours listening but i impressed myself listening to it from the first word all the way down to the last. Stayed up made a tea, early morning walk at 3am, during work, and at the bonfire pit.
Thank you to the author for sharing your skills and messages. I’m surprised I got the information I received for a fraction of what a handful of therapy sessions would’ve cost me.
Definitely opened my eyes on where I’m at with my ‘attachment style’, where I can improve on my relationship, and an eye opener on how this should be a mandatory book in high school instead of some of the other books chosen.
Anyways, great read/listen, definitely can see the positives if you were to listen with your partner… if they’re open to the idea.
Thank you Julie for taking your time to share your knowledge.
Cannot download pdf
Great content but cannot download the PDFs.