Attached
The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love
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4.5 • 1.5K Ratings
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Publisher Description
We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."
In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
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According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Levine and social psychologist Heller, one s adult romantic partnerships have patterns similar to those one has as a child with one s parents. Our individual attachment styles are thus, they conclude, hardwired into our brains. Focusing on three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant), the authors explain the biological facts behind our relationship needs, teach readers how to identify their own and loved ones attachment styles, and warn of the emotional price of connecting with someone with drastically different intimacy needs. Teaching readers communication skills to breach these differences, the authors stress that people have very different capacities for intimacy, and that partners must ensure each other s emotional well-being. Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships.
Customer Reviews
Described my relationship perfectly
I'm anxious and my wife is avoidant. The examples and descriptions in this book were 95% accurate around how I feel and very accurate around what I perceive my wife is feeling. If she reads this book I think we can repair our marriage and bring back the happy days we had in the first couple of years. I feel that early on we both managed to care for each other's emotional well being but as life stresses added up (baby, money, move to another state, college, etc) we started to fall back on our natural dispositions and things have spiraled down in the vicious cycle that anxious-avoidant relationships have. Thank you for clearly expressing this theory. In my opinion it is spot on.
Very insightful!
This was a great resource for unearthing the reasons why I am the way I am, and a way for me to better understand why my boyfriend is the way he is! Without this book breaking it down for me, I would be left confused and bewildered. Thank you to the authors for researching this very important aspect of relationships and delivering it to the world with real-life case studies and patient testimonies.
Obsessed with this book!
It really served as a guide to increase awareness into my own attachment style & better navigate relationships with others. 10/10