First Dates, Start to Finish

ou've matched with someone, and now there's a first date to plan.

This book follows a date in the order it happens. First the stretch before you meet: turning messages into a plan, choosing a place, meeting someone from an app safely, and noticing when a story doesn't add up. Then the evening itself, from what to talk about to who pays. Then the days after: your notes, a second date, ending things kindly, or silence. It works whether you asked or were asked.

Inside you'll find:

• A one-page date plan and a pre-date checklist
• A check-in card to give a friend you trust
• Scripts for asking for a second date, ending things kindly and leaving at any point
• Exit lines for six situations, and a checklist for when a match asks for money

There are 46 tools in all: 9 worksheets, 15 checklists and 22 scripts, collected again in the toolkit at the back.

Practical help with the nerves, the plans and the decisions, one date at a time.

This is Book 2 of A Clarity4Couples Guide, eight books that follow a relationship from wanting one to the year after it ends. It's for reflection and general information, not therapy or professional advice.

Created with generative AI and edited by the author.