When Things Get Hard

Things between you have been hard for a while, and you want to understand what's happening.

This book is for one partner, reading alone if need be. It begins by helping you tell an ordinary hard patch from a situation that calls for more than a book. Then it covers doubt, feeling like roommates, the argument that keeps coming back, a partner who goes quiet, jealousy, broken trust, and carrying something heavy together. Every chapter shows what you can do on your own, and pages meant for two say so.

Inside you'll find:

• A pause agreement card for arguments that run too hot
• A worksheet for mapping the fight you keep having, in plain words
• An apology builder, for the one apologizing and the one deciding whether to believe it
• A first-session prep sheet, if you decide to try counseling

There are 67 tools in all: 29 worksheets, 19 checklists and 19 scripts, collected again in the toolkit at the back.

Steady, practical help for a difficult season, at whatever pace you need.

This is Book 6 of A Clarity4Couples Guide, eight books that follow a relationship from wanting one to the year after it ends. It's for reflection and general information, not therapy or professional advice.

Created with generative AI and edited by the author.