Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
The Chump Lady's Survival Guide
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4.8 • 145 Ratings
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- $11.99
Publisher Description
This no-nonsense guide is for anyone who has ever been cheated on and needs advice—not based on saving their relationship after infidelity—but saving their sanity.
In the infidelity literature, cheaters get all the glory—their unmet needs, commitment challenges, and love triangle drama. They are the glamorous taboo breakers, star-crossed lovers, and rebels against the hegemonic forces of monogamy. Chumps (the betrayed partners) by contrast are the dullards left out of the discourse. When mentioned, it’s to discuss how they failed to enchant and must “own their part” in their partner's infidelity.
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life puts the attention squarely on the cheated-upon. Written by a former chump, it’s a resource that champions self-respect. It doesn’t assume reconciliation or buy the victim-blaming narrative that we compel people to cheat on us by our inadequacies (or can win them back by being nicer). Instead, it puts responsibility for affairs squarely on cheaters and their crappy character. It also has a good time lampooning the absurd self-centeredness of cheating.
Based on the writings of Tracy Schorn's popular infidelity blog ChumpLady.com, Schorn offers a masterclass on how to decode manipulation, fight back, and focus on gaining a life after betrayal.
Customer Reviews
Eye Opening
I’ve read hundreds of books and this is the first review I’ve ever written. This book is exactly what I needed to read. She says what you need to hear and she says it so straight-forward that there’s no other way to interpret what she’s says other than the truth. She helped me realize how pathetic I was being and how much I was lying to myself. This is a must-read if you’ve been cheated on.
Leave a cheater gain a life
This book is amazing and really gave me
Insight on what was going on in my relationship after he confessed infidelity to me.
Now I know why I acted so INSANE.
This is the book.
This book literally saved my life. Cheating is abuse by a highly disordered, narcissistic and self absorbed person who doesn’t value you, and it’s probably in your best interest to move on. There’s no other book to read about infidelity.