Love and Chaos

What's the importance of chaos and fate in the choice of the partner, sometimes victims some others protagonists of our sentimental life?
Do the events happen by chance or by necessity? Are we protagonists or victims in our existential vicissitudes? can we perceive in the events an active element,or instead we believe that all that happens is a strange coincidence of contingencies?
The chance is of course important but what's the value we give to it in romance and love?
Each of us has an hidden intimate part that has inside, the themenos, the sacred undergrowth, that is the secret path of the psychoterapies.
It is made up of small and big wounds, moments of fracture, Love could be an healing treatement for these wounds. Fusional love is of course a manner to overcome the originary trauma. The Plato myth reminds us the legend of the twin souls, makes us reconsider that each one is an half as wehad lost something that exists and maybe life is to be reconsidered, is somewhere else.