For fans of Love, Simon and I Wish You All the Best, a funny, honest, messy, completely relatable story of a girl who realizes that love can be found in many ways that don't involve sex or romance.
From the marvelous author of Heartstopper comes an exceptional YA novel about discovering that it's okay if you don't have sexual or romantic feelings for anyone . . . since there are plenty of other ways to find love and connection.
This is the funny, honest, messy, completely relatable story of Georgia, who doesn't understand why she can't crush and kiss and make out like her friends do. She's surrounded by the narrative that dating + sex = love. It's not until she gets to college that she discovers the A range of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum -- coming to understand herself as asexual/aromantic. Disrupting the narrative that she's been told since birth isn't easy -- there are many mistakes along the way to inviting people into a newly found articulation of an always-known part of your identity. But Georgia's determined to get her life right, with the help of (and despite the major drama of) her friends.
Combining the plotting of a college sex romp with a queer sensibility that foregrounds aro-ace identity, Oseman's frank, kindhearted novel follows Georgia Warr, a white British college freshman curious about finding romance of the sort she reads about in fan fiction. As Georgia and her friends Colombian British Pip, who's gay, and Jason, who's white and straight rehearse a medley of romantic Shakespearean scenes in their theater group, playing Juliet (and, indeed, any attempts at kissing) makes her "feel sort of nauseated." But Georgia's not gay, and dating Jason only leads to hurt (his) and confusion (hers). After a lively, candid conversation with her pansexual roommate Rooney, cued white, about wank fantasies, and a crash course in asexuality from college-assigned mentor, nonbinary Sunil, who identifies as homoromantic asexual, Georgia concludes that she is aro-ace: "How could I feel so sad about giving up these things I did not actually want?" she wonders. Gradually, Georgia accepts her identity, finds role models, and puts her energy into friendships just in time for a rom-com-style denouement that affirms human connection in any form. Oseman maintains an energetic pace while offering realistic and wide-ranging takes on identity, from internalized phobia to true self-love. Ages 14 up.
Sunil is homoromantic? I’m homoromantic! I felt like asexuality wasn’t real for me until I read this book. Köszönöm! Gracias! Thank you Alice Oseman!
I personally think this book is a fantastic read! Going to recommend it to couple of my friends!
I can’t put into words how much this book means to me. I’ve never read anything else that I can relate so completely to. I don’t mean to sound dramatic, but this book healed some wounds and made me take more pride in who I am 🖤🤍💜