Take My Hand Take My Hand

Take My Hand

How to be hopeful in a time of grief

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Publisher Description

‘Everyone should read it… it may just save a life.’ Susan Elliot Wright, bestselling author of The Things We Never Said

 

Friends for over thirty years, Kerry and Pat’s worlds came crashing down when their teenage sons were both diagnosed with life-threatening illnesses within weeks of each other.

 

They quickly discovered that there was no handbook on coping when your child is seriously ill but took solace in their friendship – texting at all hours and finding glimmers of dark humour on difficult days. Together these two ordinary mothers found a way to navigate their new normal and wanted to share what they’d learnt. With heartfelt honesty, they offer practical, sanity-saving strategies that allow you to keep putting one foot in front of the other when your family is in crisis, including how to:

 

- Tame raging mother guilt. It’s often the elephant in the room. Could I have prevented this happening? Is it all my fault? Kerry and Pat share all the reasons why you shouldn’t blame yourself. 

 

- Ask for what you need from the people who want to help but don’t know how – forget the flowers but please fix the hoover, walk the dog and pick my other child up from school. Knowing someone else is dealing with everyday chores is a great comfort when you’re already spread too thinly. 

 

- Look after yourself (even when you don’t care about yourself).

When keeping someone you love alive consumes every scrap of energy, looking after yourself is at the bottom of the priority list. But serious illness can quickly deplete everyone’s resources: Kerry and Pat list all the ways they found to replenish their energy.

 

- Be hopeful in the aftershock of tragedy. Kerry and Pat show you how to move forwards alongside the grief, and still take the joy where you find it rather than waiting for the grief ‘to be over’ to start living again.

 

Like a wise companion offering comfort and hope, Take My Hand is a lifeline both to those overwhelmed by heartbreak and for friends and family who don’t know how to help. Most of all, it’s a powerful reminder that no matter how difficult life gets, you are not alone.

 

Take My Hand is helping so many people: 

 

Took my breath away.’ Julia Saunders

 

Had me crying from the outset.’ Maxine Walton

 

I absolutely loved this book. It was so honest, raw, and movingI urge anyone suffering loss to pick this up.’ Goodreads Reviewer, 5 stars 

 

This book had me in tears multiple times…both heartrending and uplifting…’ Sean’s Book Reviews, 5 stars

 

I loved this memoir so muchheart-breaking, honest, inspiring.’ Goodreads Reviewer, 5 stars

 

Heart-breaking and uplifting in equal measure… It made me want to hold my family tightly… this book will give you a perspective and understanding that I think everyone should have.’ Emma Boughton

 

Knowing that I am not the only parent to be facing the difficulties of caring for a child with mental health issues has made such a difference to my personal journey.’ Goodreads Reviewer, 5 stars

 

An absolute must read… heart-breaking and equally heart-warming.’ NetGalley Reviewer, 5 stars

 

A gripping and heart-wrenching read. Gill Paul

 

One of the best books I have ever read about the experience of a family member with mental illness and with cancer.’ Dr Jayne Puttman

 

Generous and bravea book for anyone who has a friend or family member going through something like this.’ Susan Lynes

 

‘I also have experienced loss to mental illness in my childhood and took much healing from Pat’s compassion and sharing of her griefI read your book in one sitting.’ Reader Review 

 

'Should be given to everyone as part of a manual for life.’ Beth Miller 

 

This book is amazing!!!’ Carole Valente, Support Worker in a children's cancer unit

 

Brave, heartfelt and moving.’ Chat

 

A must-read… filled with helpful advice, quotes, tips and an in-depth understanding of what support was useful.’ Goodreads Reviewer, 5 stars 

GENRE
Parenting
RELEASED
2020
May 28
LANGUAGE
EN
English
LENGTH
277
Pages
PUBLISHER
Thread
SELLER
Carmelite House
SIZE
1.9
MB

Customer Reviews

sutterfly geek ,

5+ star! Radiates love and strength! Highly recommend!

I absolutely loved this book, and could relate to it 100%. Even though everyone who faces a medical crisis has different issues, backgrounds, stories, and results, there are definitely some strong commonalities. The way they told their stories touched my heart immensely. Thank you Netgalley (authors, and publishers too) for allowing me to read this free ebook preview. My review is my honest and voluntary.

What makes this book different from others and why should anyone care? This book is different from others because it sheds light on two best friends in two completely different tragic situations, with sons who are exact opposites, however; they are still able to highlight important similarities that touch your heart and teach valuable lessons. Despite the horrifying events that took place, they also shared their moments of humor and finding happiness in the smallest things, and I think that is critical to be able to get through situations like theirs. I think including those small humorous moments and things to be happy about was important because it conveyed the message that it’s ok to laugh a little and be happy during some of the things that come up. You can’t let it swallow you up to the point that all you feel is grief, despair, and hopelessness. They did a great job expressing that in their writing. The authors reveal their feelings, events, reactions, experiences, and situations with raw emotion, information, and lessons learned. Their story is written so well that it is like they are reliving it all over again and you are going through it right alongside them. They also shared information they learned through their experiences. The tips, suggestions, and information they provided are well thought out, accurate, and helpful. When I was reading their facts about questions to ask, things to consider, etc, several times I thought “oh yeah, I hadn’t thought of that, but it would be important,” and “now I can see why something that once seemed so minor would be so important now.” Their experiences at the hospitals and with Drs were also very informative. Even though they were very close friends prior to the medical tragedies, their friendship strengthened and it was obvious how important it is to be able to talk to someone just to be able to get through one more hour, one more day, one more week. The book also served as a reminder to be grateful for the things you have and to not take life for granted. It was a reminder that tragedies can strike anyone at anytime...but that you have to find a way to go on with life and deal with things the best way you can, even if it’s only one day at a time. They gave a strong message that their lives wouldn’t ever be the same again, and even though they were terrified, they both found ways to cope and go on with their new lives as best they could. They cried and wondered “why?” but they didn’t give up, and they found ways to carry on without letting it destroy them. I think their strong message of hope and resilience is so incredibly important, and they did a great job expressing that. They shared their most vulnerable moments of panic, but they didn’t give up.

Plot: Both women have been friends for decades, and the story starts off at Kerri’s 50th birthday party. Shorty thereafter Kerry purchased cough medicine for her son, Cam, because he had been coughing. It was only a cough though, and nothing seemed too serious or out of the ordinary. Soon after he returned from a rugby tournament, their visit to the dr led him to receiving a different medication, and finally resulted in him having to go to the hospital. Little did they know at the time, but his problems were much more serious than just a cough.
Pat (Kerry’s best friend) had been in communication throughout everything Kerry’s family was experiencing and proved to be a very encouraging and helpful best friend. Pat’s son, Dom, was an opposite of Cam, and tended to be more to himself and had faced many challenges at school. Suddenly, her son had a medical tragedy strike him, and it was Kerry who helped Pat in the same way she had done for her. Both medical crises were completely different, but they were both closely related in how their mothers felt, how their lives changed from “normal” to going to regular appointments, fears of “what if,” and questions of “where/how do we go on from here to make it through this? It was terribly hard, but they persevered and found ways to adapt to a life they never expected without letting it destroy them. Yes, this book makes you want to cry at times, but it also makes you want to cheer for them because they found a way to look towards hope!

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