One of America’s top radio hosts gives her inimitable take on intimate relationships.
In Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Relationships, Dr. Laura addresses the problems men and women face in finding peace, joy and single and married fulfillment in relationships. She identifies the ten most common mistakes people make that mess up their relationships, including:
1. Stupid Secrets: Withholding information for fear of rejection.
2. Stupid Egotism: Asking not what you can do for the relationship but only what the relationship can do for you.
3. Stupid Pettiness: Making a big deal out of the small stuff.
4. Stupid Power: The need to always be in control.
5. Stupid Priorities: Consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands, and chores instead of focusing on your relationship.
Dr. Laura has been solving people’s problems on the air for 25 years. Filled with letters and phone-in situations from her show, this book offers the sort of no-nonsense expertise that made her a star.
Schlessinger once again pontificates on the values, behaviors and flaws that ruin lives and society. Dr. Laura is well-known for her caustic advice on her syndicated radio show and in previous Stupid Things books. Never a believer in the proverbial spoonful of sugar, she pummels readers with judgments and instructions for dating and marriage. With many quotations from listeners, Schlessinger gives a tongue-lashing to "stupid" secrets, egotism, pettiness, power, excuses, etc. She offers rational (if familiar) counsel to honor commitments, treat partners and relationships respectfully, communicate, accept differences and make some compromises, but she exhibits not a trace of empathy or humility. She never substantiates broad generalizations that "feminist propaganda" and "ultraliberal... norms" have yielded an "amoral" and "ego-loving society," neglecting to cite sources for vague "studies." She writes, "I get very angry when spouses call feeling guilty for wanting to get out of bad relationships," forgetting that, as a counselor, her feelings don't much matter. Frozen in some pre-Feminine Mystique time, she advocates chivalry, alleging, "it's getting more and more difficult for a man to find a woman he can respect." Although not a medical doctor or addiction counselor, Schlessinger rejects the concept of addiction as disease, blaming it on poor "character." People seeking a self-help alternative to touchy-feely or moral-relativist philosophies should avoid this harsh, self-indulgent tirade.