When Something Feels Wrong

When Something Feels Wrong is a practical guide to teaching children how to recognise when something is not right — and know what to do about it.

Children often notice that something feels wrong before they can explain why. A tight stomach, an urge to leave, discomfort around someone's behaviour or a situation that gradually starts to feel different can all be useful signals.

This book shows parents and carers how to help children recognise those signals without frightening them. It covers noticing patterns, recognising unsafe behaviour, understanding the difference between secrets and surprises, and learning that their body and personal boundaries belong to them.

Children are also taught that they have unconditional permission to leave a situation that feels wrong, that they can always ask for help, and that they will be believed when they speak up.

The book also addresses bullying and what parents should do when a child tells them something worrying: stay calm, believe them, make clear that it is not their fault and get the appropriate help.

The aim is not to create a fearful child. It is to help create a confident child who can recognise the difference between safe and unsafe situations and knows what to do next.

Written for parents and carers of children roughly aged 7–13.

Practical systems, not parenting theories.

B-Useful Systems: teach children how to think, not what to think.