New, updated edition 2023! Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., CPC, drawing from 25+ years of experience, gives you ALL the little-known secret tactics that controllers and manipulators use but DON'T want you to know! She tells you what to say to the controller to get him off his position and onto yours. How to know the severity of his case, how to know if he can change, how to get "unhooked" and get him to surrender. Here's what you'll learn:
What is Control and When Is It Destructive?
The Difference Between Controlling and Manipulative
The Controlling Scale -- How Bad Is He?
How Women Get Hooked On Controlling, Manipulative Men
Living in a Dream World
When Both Mates are Controlling
Passivity and Compliance
Alcohol and Addictions
Control, Anger and Hostility
The Mind of the Controller – Just a Scared Little Boy?
What Causes a Controlling Personality?
The Two Main Types of Control
Tactics Men Use to Control and Manipulate You
Controlling and Manipulative Ploys
Controlling Behaviors That Are Typically More “Female”
How to Know if You’re With a Controller/Manipulator
Your Five Guiding Forces
How to Use Your “Chi”
The 3 C’s to Watch Out For
How to Respond to the Controller/Manipulator
The 10 Best Ways to Manage a Controller/Manipulator
Never Tolerate Abuse
Recovery for Addiction to a Controlling, Manipulative Man
How Do I End It?
The Grieving Process
Your 10 Commandments for Relationships
I have spent a lot of time looking for a resource that would help me understand what the heck was going on in my relationship. The hardest thing was that his behavior was "covert" so I had a hard time articulating it. This book helped me make sense of it so I could confront it. It also helped me see some of my own flaws and how my behavior was contributing to the problem. I'm not finished with the book but I'm so grateful for what I've read so far that I just had to share it in case it may help someone else who is dealing with a controlling, manipulating person. Read this, and it will help you get perspective on what is really going on.
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I wish I could get my money back. This wasn't helpful or what I expected.