It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People (Unabridged)
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Publisher Description
INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism
AN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVER
It’s not always easy to tell when you’re dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, What should I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani explains in It’s Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing.
Just as a tiger can’t change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence—and to protect yourself from future harm—is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior.
Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, you’ll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation.
Thriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but It’s Not You shows you it is possible. Dr. Ramani invites you to stop blaming yourself and trying to change the narcissistic person, and to start giving yourself permission to let go of their hold on you and finally embrace your true self.
Customer Reviews
Life changing
This book is the most validating body of work I’ve read on the topic of narcissism, and I’ve read A LOT. The information is distilled and crystallized in a way that helped make sense of so much lingering confusion. I really enjoyed the audio version as you could actually feel the author’s compassion and authenticity. Brilliant book. THANK YOU!
There aren’t even words…
This was one of the most eye-opening books I’ve ever read in my life. I have been enlightened and empowered to take back my story and stop living in the patterns we are so accustomed to. I have told every single person in my day-to-day life about this book. Even if you aren’t sure whether you would consider someone a narcissist, read it anyways. I’m so thankful to have found this book! I bought the audiobook and the hardcover version.
A must read for anyone who is suffering
This book may have just saved my life. Everything is in perspective now and I feel hopeful towards my future. I now realize to what depth this was not my fault.