I Want to Trust You, but I Don't
Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment
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4.5 • 12 Ratings
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Publisher Description
New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst shows you what to do with your skepticism and distrust so you can heal from past betrayals and move forward with strength and resilience.
Trust is the oxygen of all human relationships. But it's also what trips you up after you've been burned. Maybe a friend constantly lets you down. A leader or organization you respect turns out to be different than they portray themselves to be. A spouse cheats on you. A family member betrays you. You're exhausted by other people's choices and starting to question your own discernment. And you're wondering, If God let this happen, can he even be trusted?
How can you live well and step into the future when you keep stumbling over trust issues? Lysa TerKeurst says it's not simply about finding better people to walk with. It's about developing the stability you long for within yourself and with God, so you don't become cynical and carry a broken belief system into every new relationship. In I Want to Trust You, But I Don't, Lysa shows you how to
identify which of the eleven relational red flags are stirring up distrust, so you can pinpoint why you're feeling uneasy;stop having more faith in your fears coming true than God coming through for you by asking crucial "what if" questions to better process your doubts;recognize when a fractured relationship can be repaired by considering a reasonable list of characteristics necessary for rebuilding trust; andunderstand the physical, emotional, and neurological impact of the betrayals you've experienced and start healing from the inside out.
In a world where so many things feel alarming, this book will give you a peace that isn't dependent on unpredictable people, circumstances, and experiences. Instead, it offers practical and biblical ways to make real progress toward healthier perspectives, relationships, and a future you can authentically look forward to.
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Bestseller TerKeurst (It's Not Supposed to Be This Way) issues a gentle invitation for Christians to swap out blind trust for one based in intuition and faith. After her marriage collapsed, the author became paralyzed by a sense of distrust in her friends (some of whom abandoned her), herself, and most troublingly God, who'd failed to intervene while allowing "the people who hurt me... to carry on." Tracing her recovery, she describes learning to discern between emotional triggers and real signs of untrustworthiness, recognize red flags, and repair severed relationships by watching for genuine change in the other person's actions. Perhaps most challenging was restoring her faith, which she eventually did by letting go of expectations for God to ease her suffering and instead appreciating life's smallest moments, from biting into a ripe peach to listening to music "that calms my mind and makes me exhale." Despite flimsy bits of pop psychology borrowed from her therapist, the author's central idea—that trust is rooted in faith as well as personal discernment—is realistic and flexible, making room for readers' anxieties (which should be shared with God) and limitations ("What my mind can't understand, my heart tends to distrust"). It's a boon for wounded believers looking to get back on their feet.
Customer Reviews
Perfectly written
I have no idea how, but this book was specifically written for me in the very moments I read each and every chapter. I am amazed at the mystery of God. Thank you for your obedience to The Spirit.